Training Your Mind to Stop Seeing Red

From Fast Company’s article How To Coach Your Brain To Stop Being Mad At Someone by Art Markman:

  • Understand the purpose of anger.
    • Anger is part of a motivational system that gets you riled up whenever you do not get what you want. In the past, the strength that anger gives you can help you win against another caveman. In the modern world though, most fights are verbal and emotional, so these quarrels are no longer won by adrenaline-driven physical might. Thus, the power that anger gives is now largely unnecessary.
  • Try to forgive the other person.
    • The forgiver gains more than the forgiven.
    • To truly forgive, one must forget the nitty-gritty aspects of what the other person did to you because constantly remembering those things will fuel your anger.
    • Forgetting the details deactivates the motivational system.
    • “You may always be wary of them, and you may not fully trust them ever again, but that’s different than staying mad.”
  • Think about the situation differently
    • If you can’t forgive, think about other things. My idea: When I remember what that person did and I get mad, I will do crafts.
    • Make lemonade out of lemons. My realization: This has led me to do research on understanding anger.
    • Think of the situation from the other person’s perspective. Consider that their behavior was because of circumstances and not because of their innate character.

My response:

  • I need to reflect on these points
  • I need to think of action points related to the advice from this article
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Why Bill Gates and Warren Buffet Believe in Optimism

Bill Gates and Warren Buffett Reveal the Secret to Successful Leadership in Just 1 Word:

  • “While the evidence supports Gates’ argument, he’s careful to say that ‘being an optimist doesn’t mean you ignore tragedy and injustice. It means you’re inspired to look for people making progress on those fronts, and to help spread that progress more widely.’ If you want to be a successful entrepreneur, you must–by definition–be an outlier. You must have a vision other people don’t share, inspire others to join you, and keep hustling when others are giving up. Building your optimism muscles will help you achieve all three.”

New York Times’ How to Do Things Better in 2018

New York Times’ How to Do Things Better in 2018 by Karen Barrow and Sarah Graham (Giant list of How To’s):

  • How to be happy
  • How to build a successful team
  • How to clean your home
  • How to take care of your home

New York Times’ How to Be Happy

New York Times’ How to Be Happy by Tara Parker-Pope:

  • Combat negative thinking
    • As yourself “What is the evidence for this thought? Am I basing this on facts? Or feelings? Could I be misinterpreting the situation? How might other people view the situation differently? How might I view this situation if it happened to someone else?”
  • Rewrite your story in your journal
  • Spend money to buy time